GENDERGAPPERS - "NO!!! 911!"

Is this another one of those male bashing lists? No.
We do realize, however that there are those of both
genders who consider anything less than adoration to be
male bashing. We will speak of men in context, after
all, women do not live on this planet alone. Our
purpose is to convey ideas that may cause you to think,
using ***YOUR OWN*** experience and intelligence -- not
that of your parents, associates, teachers or political
and spiritual leaders. We don't ask that you agree or
disagree. We only ask you to think for yourself. The
increase in the gender gap vote in recent elections in-
dicates that more and more women are doing just that. Yah!

This list, huge as it is becoming, will be kept private with
no merchandise sale pitches. We are not trying to sell a book
so we will not misrepresent the women's movement as `finally
ended and all is just great', as does the recent spate of so-
called feminists authors who are supported and financed by
religious/political organizations. Nor do we subscribe
to their insistance that women who call attention to inequities
are just the `feminazi' trouble-makers who hate men and want to
stir up trouble between the genders.

The latest books of this genre are insisting that women are
now paid equally to men and if they aren't it is because those
women seek the kind of job that pays less. Huh? Duh! Please
show us a woman that *seeks* a low paying, labor intensive job.

The Self-Defined Woman. Who is she? We see womenkind as
arranged along a continuum. At one end is a woman who completely
accepts man's definition of woman. At the other end is a woman
who completely accepts her own definition of herself. Two well
known women that we believe come close to this end of the contin-
uum are Janet Reno and Madeleine Allbright. You may think of others.

A continuum is not a scale from bottom to top or 1 to 10.
Your place on a continuum cannot be determined for you.
This you must do for yourself as well as evaluate it. How
you express yourselve tells others where you have placed
yourself. It is, as stated, a continuum and we may be at
different places on it throughout our lives.

Men have defined woman as child, daughter, wife, moth-
er, sister etc. IOW, as HIS family members, HIS posses-
sions, while defining himself by his work, his values,
his institutions and his accomplishments. More and more women,
especially during this last century, are defining them-
selves. They are doctors, secretaries, engineers, home-
makers & home builders etc., as well as, but not neces-
sarily only, wife, mother etc.

Much has been written about men and women having a
different language. Certainly there is a difference in
*perception* and we will explore that in more detail, but
for now, please consider this: You may have seen a TV
show called, "Designing Women". One episode showed the
women training to assertively declare and protect them-
selves against rape. If they were accosted, they were
told to first yell, "NO!!! 911".

This seemed strange to us as many, too many men do not
hear or just ignore *NO* when a WOMAN says it.

...And "911" ??? Ask Nicole Brown Simpson how effec-
tive that was.

Why are we still raising our sons to rape and batter the
daughters of other women?
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